A Tribute to My Grandfather

Things I will always remember:
White Castle burgers
Louie L’amoure books
3pm cans of Pepsi.

A man of the earth,
you delighted in catching fish,
tapping maple trees,
watching birds,
planting tomatoes in hay bales.

They tell me you once longed to be
A farmer,
To work the ground and watch life grow
Each day.
But hay fever had no cure
So you signed up to be an engineer instead.

When you came to visit,
New growth sprung up in hand-built swing sets,
Backyard sheds,
Shelves or fences or sink repairs.
Every fall, like clockwork, the gold-tinged van pulled up
On Sandra Court.
You played football with us in the front yard,
Oversaw Halloween preparations,
sat in gymnasium bleachers for hours.

I loved hearing the stories:
When you met Grandma and her blond ponytail,
Or that summer internship when you bought
Hamburgers ten for a dollar.
We grew up playing in the houses you built together,
Where your love and hospitality transformed
Wood and brick into a home for so many.

In these later years, you shuffled more and talked less;
Ruthlessly guarded your “spot” on the couch
And still remembered to ask us if we’d “met someone” yet.
But it’s your excitement over the little things
I still remember the most:
Apple fritters on Tuesdays,
Cheese curds on Wednesdays,
Wheel of Fortune and Jeopardy each afternoon.
You never stopped trying new things:
New computers,
New tomatoes,
New maple syrup boiling techniques.

And through the most laborious act of love,
Typing,
You faithfully sent encouragement my way.
“Jenna, Hay Jenna what a great post.
I really liked this post, George M.”

“Hi Jenna,You always have very
interesting things [to] read about ‘’

“Hi Jenna, OK I get you.
I don’t understand but, I hear you.
Merry Christmas.”

The Great Asia Adventure

Hi friends!

Jet lag is beginning to wear off, so I thought it was probably about time to share some photos from our recent trip to Sri Lanka and Indonesia. This trip was special because it wasn’t just vacation–it was the chance for me to FINALLY visit one of my best friends in the whole world, and her husband. We had a fabulous time and it was hard to come home– I just wanted to keep traveling and keep spending time with friends forever. We are so thankful we had the opportunity to visit after talking about it for nearly three years. Continue reading

Confessions of a Distracted Do-Gooder

“Happy Birthday, Happy Birthday, happy biiiiirrrrthhhdayyyyyyy….”

Her baby dimples and toothy grin could melt the heart of any scrooge who considers taking away the singing birthday card she clutches so tightly. As her sister opens gifts and jokes with her older brother, this little one wanders in pure delight, the card opening and closing amidst her attempts to swipe a drink of soda from someone’s glass.

To think that several days ago I wanted to give up on this all together. Continue reading

The Creativity of Relationship

I find humanity a lovely, fascinating, complicated and sometimes frustrating thing.

I know you feel the same. I hear it in our laughter together over ridiculous viral videos, our confusion over a global crisis, and the love and loyalty we carry deep inside.

I hear it in words of loss, pain, and mourning; squeals of happiness or the silent smiles of deep joy. We all share this collective joy and pain of living. We all know what it’s like to be loved, and we know what it’s like to be lonely.

All my life I’ve felt what you might call the tug of the artist–the desire to be creating, inspiring, and making beauty. Only recently did it burst into my mind with sudden clarity–how every relationship is, in essence, an act of creativity. Taking two people who are completely unique and forming a relationship that has never existed exactly like this before. Continue reading

May I know their names.

One of the things I’ve realized this year is how our society is growing more and more segregated. In our neighborhoods, work, schools, and churches it is common to have a single demographic disproportionately represented. We can easily spend 90% of our time with people who see the world very similarly.

And so we might talk about poor people or rich people without really knowing any. We might talk about refugees without having ever had a friendship with one. We might even discount the validity of race issues or privilege or global warming. Of course, this is a huge generalization, but I’ve seen it true all too often in my own life.  Continue reading

When the World is Hurting

We may have never seen it more clearly than this week.

How fear, hate, and division can gather momentum, eat away like a cancer.

I don’t pretend to understand. I don’t have any answers, except for Christ. But today I pray for comfort, for healing, for justice, for safety, for peace.

“To you we lift up our eyes,

O you who are enthroned in the heavens!

…our eyes look to the Lord our God,

till he has mercy upon us.

Have mercy upon us, o Lord,

Have mercy upon us,

for we have had more than enough of contempt.”

Psalm 123

 

On three years of marriage.

Three years ago today, we said “I do” in front of roughly two hundred friends and family.

 

We pledged our lives to each other without having any idea what the next years would bring. Three years later, we still don’t have a clue what the future holds. It’s been a wild ride of moving, travels, making new friends, and LOTS of learning together. And we know this is just the beginning of a lifetime of learning and growing together!

Although I feel like there is still so many ways I need to grow, here are a few of the things I’ve learned so far about marriage: Continue reading